Blackout

It took me an hour and 10 minutes to reach her and I wouldn’t have if she hadn’t told me about “American Idol.” She said that she’d hit redial non-stop for two hours before she got to vote for Clay. “You can’t give up, Mom. If you keep dialing you eventually get through.”

I started dialing my daughter on her cell phone Friday afternoon the second I heard…

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Friendship reveals the depth of trust that belongs to God

 Friendship reveals the depth of trust that belongs to God

The piano sat in the living room for 33 years. A baby grand, it took up a lot of space. It was old, it didn't hold a tune, it needed to be refinished, but I loved it - not just for the notes that filled the house whenever it was played, but for its history. It was my in-laws' piano before it was mine. My sister-in-law played and my father-in-law sang and strummed a ukulele, and friends would come by to visit or to have dinner and inevitably end up around the piano. For years, it made music for parties that seemed to run one right into the next.

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The Wedding

The rhododendrons bloomed on her wedding day. The front yard was pink with them, big, bright, showy flowers everywhere you looked.

Call it luck, chance, happenstance. I know better. Those bushes were woody and straggly for years before, the flowers few and pale, nothing you’d notice. Nothing that would take your breath away. And in the years after, they were worse…

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A sign from above via the phone

 A sign from above via the phone

He never believed in signs. When I told him about my mother and the bird, he just smiled. "It was more than coincidence," I would argue. And he would give me a look that may as well have been a pat on the head. My friend, Father Coen, had no trouble believing in the Resurrection, the Transfiguration, the Ascension, transubstantiation and eternal life. But he couldn't buy the simple fact that a lone bird flying in a barely open window on a cold November day was a sign that my mother was safe and that she had found a way to tell me…

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Spring replaces a winter rife with discontent

Spring replaces a winter rife with discontent

The national threat level: from orange to yellow and back again. Twenty degrees one day, zero the next. Snow everywhere. And bad news. Month after month of it. Except for the miracle of Elizabeth Smart, it was all bad news. The winter was miserable. It was long and dark and hard and scary. And it refused to leave. But here we are on the other side of it. Most of us anyway. Those of us who didn't lose anyone to the winter or the war. For us, finally, the bad time is over. It's May and if it's a little cloudy and rainy, who cares?

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Joy in Your Back Yard

A simple thing in these complicated times. My son-in-law e-mailed me a test. You know the kind. What's your favorite food? What was the last movie you saw? Which do you prefer: Sprite or 7-Up? Croutons or bacon bits? The person sending the quiz answers these questions, then sends it to you. You read his answers, delete them, add your own, then e-mail the test with your answers to all of your friends…

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The Joy a Baby Brings

They entered the restaurant together, three women, one carrying a baby girl in a car seat, four generations dressed to the nines: a great grandmother, a grandmother, a mother, and an infant.

Heads turned as the hostess accompanied them to a small round table by a window, not just because it was noon on a Thursday and they were dressed in their Sunday best. And not just because they were laughing and chatting, but because of the way they moved together, as a single unit, like a pull toy on some invisible string. 

The eldest, tall and lean, was dressed in a dark grey coat, soft pink hat, and leather gloves, and was guided along gently by her daughter. The daughter eased her mother out of her coat and pulled back her chair, then walked across the room and hung the coat on a rack. At the table, she made certain her mother was settled before taking a seat herself.

The youngest woman, the mother of the baby, did the same. She placed the infant in her carrier on a chair, removed the plaid blanket that was covering the child, took off the baby’s pink hat, then strapped the carrier to the seat before taking off her own coat and sitting down.

The three grown-ups didn’t rush to pick up their menus, or crane their necks in search of  a server with water, or even to begin a conversation. They were like men watching a football game on TV. They all just stared at the baby. 

She was sleeping the sleep of infants, oblivious to the sounds of glasses clinking, people talking, tables being set and unset — totally unaware of the noise, the bright sun streaming in through the big windows, and the three sets of eyes that brimmed with love and pride and awe and wonder as they memorized every little part of her. The pale baby skin. The soft wisps of hair. The tender lips. The fingers curled tight. Every inch of her so new and innocent.

The women sighed. You couldn't hear it in this room with all the clamor. But you could see it. The settling in. The women relaxing. The mother leaned over and stroked the baby's face. The baby stirred. The grandmother leaned over, too, but only to gaze more closely at the child.

A waiter appeared. He smiled at the women. They smiled back.

"She’s beautiful," he said, and every one of them puffed up like a bird about to sing. "How old is she?"

"Two months," they replied.

"Is she your first?" he said, addressing the youngest. And though the question was asked of just her, all the women nodded. 

Between the salad and the soup, between bites of bread and lulls in the conversation, the women would turn and stare at the child. They were all in awe. The mother and grandmother kept touching her. To smooth a wrinkled dress. To pat down her hair. To pick. To straighten. As if their fingers needed proof that she was real.

The women ate. They laughed. They sipped tea and they talked. The baby slept through it all, unaware of her importance, unaware that she bridged generations; unaware that she was a miracle who negated age and time; unaware that because of her sat three women, one young, one middle-aged, one old, all different but for the moment all the same, bound by their motherhood and this baby who was a part of them all.

Another Variety of Terrorism

This is what I have learned since Sept. 11: Armageddon is personal. A terrorist doesn't have to kill you for you to be dead. Bombs and smallpox and anthrax and toxins are the headliners. But in the small print on the back pages where most of us live our lives, and often in no print at all but in the whispers and tears of family and friends, there are countless private tragedies that deal as deadly a blow…

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