We walk through life not seeing

We walk through life not seeing

The child was 3, maybe 4, and walking hand in hand with his mother down Charles Street on a beautiful August day. Boston Common was to his left, the Public Garden to his right, The Four Seasons Hotel ahead and the State House behind. The sky was blue, the sun bright and every tree in the city was in bloom. The people were in bloom, too, little kids, big kids, tourists and natives, colorful in their shorts and baseball hats, suits and sundresses. The streets teemed with cars and trucks, bikes and bikers, busses and trolleys and in the distance, there were even more buildings and people and things. It was a page right out of "Where's Waldo."

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The Lies our Children are Absorbing

You look at her and see a child still, because that's what she is, a slim, pretty girl in a T-shirt and jeans, 12 and in no hurry to be 13. “I don't want to grow up,” she tells me as she's beating me at Spit, a card game I have yet to win. “I like being a kid.”

“You'll like being an adult, too, I promise. It comes with some tremendous perks. You get to pick out all the food at the grocery…

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A mom leaves behind her best

When I asked the priest to pray for Beth's mother and he said, "What's her name?" I answered, "Mrs. O'Connor."

Her first name, Mary, didn't come to me until hours later because, it's "my mother" that Beth always calls her.

"My mother's on the other line. Can I call you back?"

"My mother and father are here. My mother's staying a few days. "

"The twins are with my mother."

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Revisiting Summer with a Child

She had a chart in her room and was marking off days. I had a chart in my head and was doing the same. Then Sunday finally arrived. Xena didn't pack much for her summer at my house. She didn't need much - just shorts, jeans, a few T-shirts, a book, writing paper, some craft things. She set up camp in my daughter's old room. Then she was beside me talking about her friends Elspie and Amaran and schoo…

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A dad writes what is unsaid

 A dad writes what is unsaid

He writes things that he would never say in person. Not that they're intimate things. They're not. They're brief statements that come right to the point.

But his written words are different from his spoken ones. He writes from a place he seems to go to only in print, a room he has kept under lock and key for so long that it's only with pen in hand or with a keyboard in front of him that he can enter.

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Motherly Love Never Departs

Their images come to me by day and by night. I'll look in the mirror and see not me in the deep plum dress that I will wear at my daughter's wedding, but my own mother in the teal blue dress that she wore at mine. Sometimes I see the three of them: my mother, my aunt and my mother-in-law. My own holy trinity. They were the three women who loved me and mothered me and were there for me, one or the other, or all of them together, for too short a while a very long time ago…

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Dog Turns Noontime Ritual into a Walk on the Wild Side

It's noon and it's raining and the dog wants to go for a walk, but I do not.

I tell her I'm not going. "No walk today, girl. It's too awful outside."

But she will have none of this. She's pacing and prancing and moaning and groaning and all but pointing to the ticking clock in the front hall. It has just chimed, one, two, all the way to 12 and Molly, who doesn't know what "Get off the couch this instant" means and who can't even process the one-syllable word down, knows exactly what time it is.

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Sometimes the song must end

Sometimes the song must end

My mother used to sing. Every morning I'd come downstairs and there she'd be standing at the kitchen sink, singing some tune, even if it were winter and dark and the coffee hadn't yet perked. She'd hum as she put on her makeup and sing softly as she dressed, and in the car she would always turn up the radio and sing along with Peggy Lee. She cleaned the house to music, the record player at full volume, as she belted out tunes from "Gypsy" or "Annie Get Your Gun."

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A Lot Goes On Amid Bleakness of an Ordinary Winter's Day

A Lot Goes On Amid Bleakness of an Ordinary Winter's Day

It was an ordinary February day, not sunny and mild, a prelude to spring. Not the kind of day where you can smell the earth and feel its softness under the hard ground.

It was gray and raw and barren, the trees like stick figures drawn by a child, everything dull and muted and smudged. It was hat and scarf weather, but even these couldn't keep you warm. It was a day to endure, not to enjoy…

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'Privacy' vs. drunk driving

Ask Linda Pacheco how she is and she says: "Busy. Too busy. Just once I'd like to be able to say there's nothing going on here."

"Here" is the Bristol County Chapter of Mothers Against Drunk Driving. Pacheco is executive director. She answers the phone and a million questions, collecting and dispensing all kinds of information about drinking and driving. Plus she's the rock…

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